You Matter. A LOT.


Don't minimize your impact on the world.


Many people care about you,

Many people love you,

Many people wish you would realize that more.


I'm going through a rough patch, but I'm trying to keep smiling and weather the storm. I'm giving myself space to feel my emotions, but also remembering the good times. It's all the little moments that make life worth it.

So please, remember your worth. And know that there are good moments ahead of you.

Hugs to all of you!!! 🤗❤️

Hi! You can call me Vivian. I am a free-spirited girl currently living in the insular Hasidic community of Chabad-Lubavitch. I blog about my questions and struggles with religion, as well as my everyday spoonie life with chronic illness. You'll usually find me either with a pen and notebook, furiously writing up my next poem, or curled up with a cup of hot chocolate and a book. Although if you look hard enough, you might find me secretly watching Netflix somewhere.

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